Premature Ejaculation

Improving Premature Ejaculation

Are you annoyed or frustrated by lack of ejaculatory control? We also work with men who want to have longer, more satisfying intercourse. Premature ejaculation, also called rapid or early ejaculation, is a common problem that can affect quality of life for both you andyour partner. If you can’t last as long as you’d like, you can learn techniques that will help you and your partner have gratifying intercourse.

Current thinking about premature ejaculation is that it is often due to performance anxiety, but any type of anxiety, including stress, may trigger your loss of control of orgasm and ejaculation. In treating premature ejaculation, it is important for the therapist to gather a complete sexual history from you in order to understand when the problem began and what events may trigger it. Premature ejaculation is often a more complex problem than it appears; that is why various techniques may not work, or may work inconsistently.

You may be interested to know that research suggests that there may also be a biological component to premature ejaculation, especially for men who have never had good control or who know that a male relative also had this problem. Without going into detail, a protein that affects the way the brain uses serotonin may be present. Although we do not prescribe medication, as a psychologist Dr. Buehler is able to discuss and educate you about medication and referral to an appropriate provider.  Some things you might want to try on your own include:

  • Reducing overall stress in your life
  • Trying a meditation technique, such as mindfulness, to increase relaxation and focus
  • Do your Kegel exercises to strengthen pelvic floor muscles
  • Try going in circles instead of thrusting during intercourse
  • Learn ways to help your partner have orgasm first

Even if you opt for medication, for optimal success you will probably want or need to continue your therapy, as you may have a psychological or relationship problem that you haven’t been able to uncover by yourself. Fears about the security of the relationship itself and other worries may prevent you from experiencing the intimacy you want and deserve.

If you are looking for help to maintain better ejaculatory control, you’ve come to the right place. We’re not embarrassed to talk about it–and neither should you, at least once you get to know your therapist. Please call Dr. Buehler at 800-769-0342 to schedule your initial appointment.