Is your partner acting like a sex addict?  Are you about to call a therapist?  My heart goes out to you.  I know you are angry, scared, disgusted, and even humiliated to learn that your partner is chronically looking at porn, "sexting" dirty messages, chatting up sexual relationships virtually, or visiting prostitutes.  I don't blame you for reaching out to a therapist for help.  If I were in your shoes, I'd think of doing the very same thing.

But, stop and think:  Sometimes the reason your man is acting out sexually is because he is stressed out, depressed, or upset.  Instead of reaching out for help, he is reaching out to something that is unhealthy for himself, or for his relationship with you.

So please understand that if you are a woman, and you make the call, I may ask you to have your partner call me instead.  Why?  He needs to learn that when he's feeling down, the healthy thing to do is to ask for help.  He needs to get on the phone himself and make the call.  If you do it for him, you are stopping him from doing something he needs to do for himself.  Let him know that you understand that calling a therapist may be strange, but that he clearly needs help.  This is what mature adults do:  When they have too many problems that they can't handle, they let someone know.

If you are a man wondering how to ask for help, it really is as simple as picking up the phone and calling a therapist who treats out of control sexual behavior.  Therapists are trained to help people who don't know what to do about their feelings or their problems.  They can get you out of the mess you are in with your relationship, and maybe your life.  Put a little faith in us.  All of us therapist, we are standing by, ready for you to call.