Books about Sexuality and Relationships

Dr. Stephanie Buehler’s Books

Stephanie Buehler has crafted one of the most informative and comprehensive books on treating sexual concerns.

Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy

[This] is a readable and comprehensive book that serves as a landmark resource on sexuality for all mental health professionals.
Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy


Third Edition Coming in 2021!

There are several books about sex therapy, but few written in one knowledgeable voice.  While sex-related issues frequently arise in therapeutic practice, mental health professionals are sometimes uncomfortable and ill-equipped to address the sexual concerns of their clients. Here is a practical guide for mental health practitioners on how to comfortably discuss, assess, and treat sexual issues that arise in practice. It is based on the premise that the therapist must be comfortable with his or her own sexuality in order to offer appropriate treatment. Written by an author who is both a psychologist and sex therapist, the guide provides information, tools, and exercises that will increase the confidence and comfort of mental health professionals called upon to treat sexual issues during the course of therapy.

The book discusses the characteristics of healthy sexuality—for both client and therapist–and explores the reasons that may underlie a therapist’s discomfort with addressing sexual issues. Using case studies and sample dialogues, it explains how to treat a multitude of common and unusual sexual problems, couple’s issues, questions that parents may have about sex, working with LGBT clients and other forms of sexual diversity, sex for survivors of trauma, and how to assess whether or not an individual needs more extensive sexual therapy. The guide demonstrates how therapists in different modalities can incorporate treatment of sexual problems into their practice, along with coverage of relevant ethical issues. Also included is a downloadable workbook that contains a number of tools and client handouts that can be immediately put to use. Additionally, the book provides resources for more in-depth information and discusses collaboration with other health professionals.

Key Features:

  • Discusses how to comfortably discuss, assess, and treat the sexual concerns of clients
  • Supported by case studies and therapist/clinician dialogues
  • Includes “In the Trenches” sidebars taken from the author’s own experience
  • Offers treatment that readers can immediately put to use
  • Provides downloadable workbook containing assessments, worksheets, and client handouts

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Counseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy: Sexuality and Intimacy Issues

Digital edition available for pre-order now on Amazon

This practical, evidence-based resource is the first available guide for health care providers and mental health professionals on advising and counseling couples and individuals who are experiencing sexual issues directly related to conception efforts, pregnancy, and the post-partum period. Authored by a noted sex therapist, the book offers providers current, accurate information about issues that can affect sexual activity surrounding pregnancy and offers proven strategies for effective counseling.

Providing a helpful framework for assessment, treatment, and when to refer a client to another health care provider, the book examines conception- and pregnancy-related sexual dysfunctions that both men and women may encounter. Underscoring the importance of maintaining a strong relationship between couples, the book is filled with practical guidance for treating both cisgender couples and the LBGT population. Also included are helpful checklists, forms, and patient handouts that can be used immediately. Couple and marriage counselors, nurse midwives, women’s health nurses, and other professionals whose practice includes work with couples and childbirth concerns, will find this book an unparalleled resource.

Key Features:

  • Addresses common issues and questions women, men, and couples have regarding sex prior to, during, and after pregnancy
  • Includes relevant information for both mental health professionals and health care providers in a variety of settings
  • Discusses assessing and treating common sexual concerns including approaches to brief counseling
  • Covers fertility issues, painful intercourse, intimacy problems, post-partum depression, reproductive loss, and traumatic labor and delivery
  • Authored by a recognized sex therapist and educator

A Heart-Pounding Guide to Passionate Sex: An E-book for Every Couple

A Heart Pounding Guide to Passionate Sex
 is a straightforward, easy to read manual for couples who have either come into a sexual relationship without much experience, or couples who need to make their sexual relationship better but don’t know where to start.  The book covers the basics of what makes sex feel good; how to communicate about sex; the role of self-knowledge about pleasure; how fantasy can help improve sex; what moves feel good to men and women; which lubricants to choose; and what different types of sex toys are available.  Written with everyday couples in mind, the language in this book is mindful not to offend, but to inform all types of people.  Sex & Passion: The Essential Guide is available as a kindle ebook for instant download to computer, tablet, or reader.

In addition to being a licensed psychologist specializing in sex therapy and relationships, Dr. Buehler holds a Master of Professional Writing degree from USC and will entertain writing projects of all kinds.  She has written hundreds of articles.  Please visit The Blog Erotic to read entries on all kinds of topics related to sex.

Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couples Guide to Staying Connected

Until now, the marketplace has offered little valuable information for couples in which one or both partners suffers from mental illness with resulting sexual problems. Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple’s Guide to Staying Connected is for all of those couples. It will help both parties understand the effects of mental illness—and of the medications used to treat it—on sexual desire and performance and provide ways to maintain both physical and emotional intimacy.The first section of the book centers on common sexual concerns and loving someone with a mental disorder. The second addresses a wide range of mental disorders, their effects on relationships, and ways couples can work together to overcome those effects. Among the conditions covered are mood disorders; anxiety disorders; chronic pain; eating disorders; substance-related disorders; post traumatic stress; ADD; Asperger’s Syndrome; and even severe mental illness, such as schizophrenia. The emphasis throughout is on each partner developing empathy and communication skills to enhance the sexual experience and preserve a healthy relationship.