About Sex Therapy

Dr. Stephanie Buehler offers sex and relationship therapy exclusively online to residents of Orange County and all of California. Every type of imaginable sexual problem is addressed, including:

  • Mismatched desire
  • Women’s sexual problems like low desire and orgasm difficulties
  • Men’s sexual problems like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation
  • Painful intercourse and vaginismus (intercourse not possible)
  • Sexual recovery after trauma
  • Sex and relationship problems related to chronic illness, cancer, menopause, “andropause” (male menopause) and “couple-pause” (couples who are aging but still want an active sex life)
  • Sexuality and intimacy after divorce or breakup and in or thinking about a new relationship
  • Compulsive sexual activity (“sex addiction,” please note that I help people with emotional problems and not addiction per se)
  • Polyamorous and nontraditional couples looking for guidance or resolving sexual issues
  • LGBTQ+ individuals and couples seeking not just an ally but a psychologist who is competent in working with your particular issues
  • Sex and relationship issues related to infertility, pregnancy, and the postpartum period
  • Gender-related issues including transgender and gender non-conforming clients
  • And more.

Using deep listening, thorough assessment, and a solution-focused approach, Dr. Buehler has helped hundreds of men, women, and couples regain sexual and relationship satisfaction and joy.

What is sex therapy? Simply put, sex therapy is psychotherapy, but the emphasis is on sexuality. We live in a culture where it is difficult to experience true sexual health. Our sexuality usually develops in secret and without open discussion of what it means to be a sexual being.

    What Does It Mean To Be a Sexual Being?

    From the moment we are born, we are given a gender, signaling the importance of sexuality to our identity. Much of the way we develop is devoted to becoming a romantic and sexual partner. We spend energy finding our sexual ideal, and for many people, that is the moment we make a commitment to be with someone for the long term.

    Why Problems Arise

    When someone isn’t able to express themselves sexually, they can become sad, anxious, and isolated. Problems can come up because of psychological, relationship, or medical issues, or a combination of factors.

    Solving the Issue

    Some problems are easily solved with a trip to the physician’s office. A woman in menopause who has vaginal dryness may seek help with the use of topical estrogen, or a man who is aging may wish to try medications for erectile dysfunction.

    But sexual problems are often complicated and not solvable with a quick fix. And, unfortunately, many therapists are not well-trained in sex therapy (though the hope is my book What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex will change all of that!).

    Specialized Help

    So the specialty of sex therapy was developed to fill that gap. Sex therapy is usually a combination of education, information, suggestions, and deeper psychotherapy when people get a little stuck in making the changes they want.


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