How a Psychologist Can Help with Sexual Pain Disorders

Pain is a human experience that is not completely understood.  So I learned at the International Pelvic Pain Society meeting in San Diego last weekend.  What is known is that pain comes from the brain.  An injured area sends signals to the brain, and the brain makes...

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Why Are You Having an Affair?

People, even therapists, are surprised that I have had a fair number of clients in my office seeking answers about themselves.  Specifically, they want to know why they are having an affair, or affairs.  Obviously, they realize that they are unhappy, but often they...

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A Burning Question about Sex

I just had an interesting call, though one that is not unique to our practice.  It could have been a man or a woman, but let's make it a female caller with a male partner who asks, "My partner is curious about having sex with (fill in the blank).  Should I let him?" ...

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When Orgasms Don’t Come Easily

Women sometimes have problems having an orgasm. When it happens occasionally, it can be frustrating but usually the reason is easily identified--the person was tired or distracted, perhaps. But when a woman or man don't have orgasms at all, that's more unusual, and...

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Rethinking Sex Addiction, Part I

A growing group of psychotherapists are questioning the idea that sex can be addictive.  I, too, have struggled with the concept of addiction when it comes to sex.  Some men (and it is mainly men, so I'll use male pronouns) do seem truly out of control when it comes...

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Adult Virgins and Their Sexuality

Maybe you're reading this out of curiosity--or maybe you're reading it because it describes you.  You're way past the age when all of your peers have had sex, and you're wondering how and why you ended up here. By age 27, all but 3% of the American population has...

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Colorless Sex in 50 Shades of Grey

I don't think I've ever been so bored by sex scenes in my whole life.  I've seen hotter sex scenes in "Grey's Anatomy" than in "50 Shades of Grey."  Was it just because of the work I do, listening to, talking about, and watching all sorts of materials to better...

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Sex and Chronic Illness: Reclaiming Intimacy

Are you grappling with a chronic illness and it's impact on your sex life? Learn how you can reclaim intimacy and re-connect with your partner in the wake of chronic illness. Chronic illness and sexuality.ppt1 1 from Dr. Stephanie...

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5 Things to be Thankful For

Thanksgiving can be a busy, crazy time of year. Should Uncle Bud be seated next to Cousin Larry even though they haven’t spoken in years? Shall we do away with the “kid’s table” this year and take our chances? Order the feast, or prepare it ourselves? Forget the whole...

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Pelvic Pain Disorders: Live from IPPS Meeting

I'm at the International Pelvic Pain Society meeting in Chicago and already stoked to bring back new information.  At the basics meeting, I got caught up on what's new in our understanding of pain, and Dr. Bruce Fenton stated emphatically MEDITATION HELPS! What? ...

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