What a Sexology Conference in India Taught Me about Sex

It’s exotic, India: spices and incense, jungle foliage, and temples, both massive and small, built to honor the pantheon of Hindu gods. It’s also grounded: a crush of cars and people, grand hotels beside tiny shelters, and daily grand movement from home to work and...

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Orgasm: What’s the Point?

Orgasms—keep them coming, right? Sometimes easier said than done, for both men and women. In this , researchers make a case that in female mammals that ovulate only once a month—instead of releasing an egg just after intercourse, when sperm is present to fertilize...

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I’m the Sex Therapist at Womanology/Restore Him at Hoag

I've got news--big news.  I've moved my practice into the offices at Womanology/Restore Him by Hoag Hospital.  Here's why. Womanology/Restore Him is a "one stop shop" for men and women looking for help with issues like: Sexual pain disorders, like vaginismus for women...

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Irritable Bowel Syndrome and Sex: What You Need to Know

A recent study demonstrated that men with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) are more likely to have erectile dysfunction (ED) than other men.  This is true whether the cause of ED is physical or psychological.  The finding isn't a surprise; sex therapy offices are filled...

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How a Psychologist Can Help with Sexual Pain Disorders

Pain is a human experience that is not completely understood.  So I learned at the International Pelvic Pain Society meeting in San Diego last weekend.  What is known is that pain comes from the brain.  An injured area sends signals to the brain, and the brain makes...

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Why Are You Having an Affair?

People, even therapists, are surprised that I have had a fair number of clients in my office seeking answers about themselves.  Specifically, they want to know why they are having an affair, or affairs.  Obviously, they realize that they are unhappy, but often they...

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A Burning Question about Sex

I just had an interesting call, though one that is not unique to our practice.  It could have been a man or a woman, but let's make it a female caller with a male partner who asks, "My partner is curious about having sex with (fill in the blank).  Should I let him?" ...

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When Orgasms Don’t Come Easily

Women sometimes have problems having an orgasm. When it happens occasionally, it can be frustrating but usually the reason is easily identified--the person was tired or distracted, perhaps. But when a woman or man don't have orgasms at all, that's more unusual, and...

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Rethinking Sex Addiction, Part I

A growing group of psychotherapists are questioning the idea that sex can be addictive.  I, too, have struggled with the concept of addiction when it comes to sex.  Some men (and it is mainly men, so I'll use male pronouns) do seem truly out of control when it comes...

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Adult Virgins and Their Sexuality

Maybe you're reading this out of curiosity--or maybe you're reading it because it describes you.  You're way past the age when all of your peers have had sex, and you're wondering how and why you ended up here. By age 27, all but 3% of the American population has...

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Colorless Sex in 50 Shades of Grey

I don't think I've ever been so bored by sex scenes in my whole life.  I've seen hotter sex scenes in "Grey's Anatomy" than in "50 Shades of Grey."  Was it just because of the work I do, listening to, talking about, and watching all sorts of materials to better...

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