3 Ways to Make Baby-Making Sex, Fun Sex

It’s decided—the two of you want to have a baby. How exciting! In fact, for some couples, “baby-making sex” is the most fun of all because it has a unique meaning. For others, however, when recreational sex becomes procreational sex, all the fun seems to shrivel away....

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3 Ways to Keep Your Sex Life Alive with Kids Under 5

Forgot to have sex? It happens to even the best of couples. You’re running here and there, making the folks happy, the boss happy, the friends happy, and most of all, the kids happy. One day you look at your partner and blink. How long has it been since the two of you...

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5 Female Sexual Problems that You Can’t Fix with a Pill

Last week, I wrote a post about "5 Male Sexual Problems that You Can't Fix with a Pill," so here's the promised follow-up about women.  The pharmaceutical industry would love to find a pill for women's sexual problems that rivals the success of Viagra. The likelihood...

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5 Male Sexual Problems You Can’t Fix with a Pill

If you listen to the media you'd think that there are miracle pills available for almost any kind of sexual problem.  Most of all, you know that for men there are "little blue pills" and testosterone potions to create good erections and plenty of mojo. But pills--when...

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What a Sexology Conference in India Taught Me about Sex

It’s exotic, India: spices and incense, jungle foliage, and temples, both massive and small, built to honor the pantheon of Hindu gods. It’s also grounded: a crush of cars and people, grand hotels beside tiny shelters, and daily grand movement from home to work and...

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Orgasm: What’s the Point?

Orgasms—keep them coming, right? Sometimes easier said than done, for both men and women. In this , researchers make a case that in female mammals that ovulate only once a month—instead of releasing an egg just after intercourse, when sperm is present to fertilize...

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I’m the Sex Therapist at Womanology/Restore Him at Hoag

I've got news--big news.  I've moved my practice into the offices at Womanology/Restore Him by Hoag Hospital.  Here's why. Womanology/Restore Him is a "one stop shop" for men and women looking for help with issues like: Sexual pain disorders, like vaginismus for women...

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Irritable Bowel Syndrome and Sex: What You Need to Know

A recent study demonstrated that men with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) are more likely to have erectile dysfunction (ED) than other men.  This is true whether the cause of ED is physical or psychological.  The finding isn't a surprise; sex therapy offices are filled...

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How a Psychologist Can Help with Sexual Pain Disorders

Pain is a human experience that is not completely understood.  So I learned at the International Pelvic Pain Society meeting in San Diego last weekend.  What is known is that pain comes from the brain.  An injured area sends signals to the brain, and the brain makes...

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Why Are You Having an Affair?

People, even therapists, are surprised that I have had a fair number of clients in my office seeking answers about themselves.  Specifically, they want to know why they are having an affair, or affairs.  Obviously, they realize that they are unhappy, but often they...

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A Burning Question about Sex

I just had an interesting call, though one that is not unique to our practice.  It could have been a man or a woman, but let's make it a female caller with a male partner who asks, "My partner is curious about having sex with (fill in the blank).  Should I let him?" ...

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