Frequently Asked Questions
What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy is a specialized form of psychotherapy that helps a person or couple to solve a sexual problem.
How does sex therapy work?
Together, we do a lot of talking and exploring together to try to figure out just what the problem is. The exploration includes the symptoms, how long the problem has occurred, when it began, and what you’ve tried to work it out on your own or with another therapist.
We look at all aspects of your relationship, to see if problems in one area are causing problems in another area. If it feels appropriate, Dr. Buehler might give you some reading or activities to do between sessions. Most importantly, we work as a team to try to bring about some change so that you and your partner are happier about your relationship, both in and out of the bedroom.
Sex Therapy Can Make All The Difference
Most Common Concerns
There are many kinds of sexual concerns that people bring into the office. Some of the specific problems that I see include:
- Problems with sexual desire
- Couples therapy for sexual problems
- Wanting to experience orgasm
- Eliminating erectile dysfunction
- Having comfortable, pain-free intercourse
- Improving premature ejaculation
- Problematic sexual issues like Internet pornography use (aka “sex addiction”)
- Sexual problems related to infertility and pregnancy / post partum period
- Overcoming sexual problems associated with infertility
- Coping with sex and chronic illness, pain, or cancer
- Surviving and thriving after negative sexual experiences
- Alternative lifestyles, aka “kink”, or needing a kink-friendly therapist
- Exploring LGBT-related issues
If you don’t see your exact problem listed here, don’t feel embarrassed. Call anyway and I’ll let you know how I might help.
Who is Dr. Stephanie Buehler?
Dr. Buehler is a highly qualified professional. She is a licensed psychologist and certified as a sex therapist by a national organization, AASECT. Please click here to learn more about Dr. Buehler.
Most Commonly Asked Questions
What is a sex therapist?
A sex therapist is someone who treats people with sexual concerns. Please be aware that the word “therapist” is not a legally protected term; anyone can call him- or herself a “therapist.” You want to make sure that you see a licensed mental health professional for your sexual concerns. These include psychiatrists, psychologists, marriage and family therapists, and licensed clinical social workers. It also includes psychological assistants and registered psychologists who may be working toward hours required for licensure.
What type of therapy do you practice?
Dr. Buehler uses evidence-based interventions. As a Doctor of Psychology (Psy.D.), she is trained to analyze research for effective treatments to use in practice. Using research doesn’t mean that therapy will be as dry as toast, or that you will be a guinea pig. It simply means that Dr. Buehler is always reading articles and books to find out what psychologists and medical doctors are learning. Compassion and humor are also part of treatment.
The most important ingredient for effective therapy, though, is you. You need to feel that your therapist understands you. It is Dr. Buehler’s job, and pleasure, to make you feel welcome and comfortable in her office so that you can talk about what’s on your mind and work together to figure out how to make things better.
Do you use surrogates?
No. No touching or nudity is ever appropriate in a psychotherapy session. Please see the text on Professional Therapy Never Includes Sex.[/accordion_content][accordion_content title=”How long does therapy take?”]Most people find that they can resolve their concerns within 12-16 sessions. However, some people need more time in therapy, and some people need less. This depends on several things, including the complexity of the problem, how long the problem has occurred, and even how much time you can devote to working on the problem between sessions.
Dr. Buehler will discuss your goals with you and check in periodically to make sure that therapy is on track. If you are not making progress or think it is too slow, you can bring that up. In fact, it is your therapy, so you should always feel free to discuss any part of it.
It is important to be realistic about what can be accomplished in therapy. It isn’t going to change your partner into the fantasy mate of your dreams. (Sorry!) We aren’t going to make all your pain go away forever. (Really, we wish we could.) What therapy can do is help you to enjoy sex and have a healthier relationship.
How often do we meet?
That depends on many factors, but generally people come to therapy once a week. How often we meet is discussed in the first session.
Is therapy confidential?
Psychotherapy is completely confidential, with some legal exceptions. Psychotherapists do consult with one another on cases in order to provide the best treatment, but never give any specific information away. Also, you may wish to have your psychotherapist collaborate with a medical provider; if so, a specific release of information must be signed that allows this communication. If you have concerns about confidentiality, we invite you to discuss them.
Do you prescribe medication?
No. Only a medical doctor can prescribe medication. We highly recommend that patients who want or need psychotropic medication work with a psychiatrist, and we are able to provide referrals. We are also legally able to counsel people regarding medications within a scope of practice regulated by the State.
What about insurance?
The Buehler Institute is not on any provider panels or networks. Fee is due at the time of service, and we can provide a superbill (special medical receipt) for services for you to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement directly to you.